Responsibility 199, what is it?

Responsibility 199 is a belief; I believe that to be healthy and to increase my longevity I need to weigh 199 pounds or less...
Responsibility 199 is a need; I need to reduce my weight, reduce my percentage of body fat, and the elevated threat of disease my present condition presents...
Responsibility 199 is a mission; I recognize that achieving 199 will be a challenge, perhaps the hardest I have ever undertaken...
Responsibility 199 is a commitment; I acknowledge that I must commit to action, commit to change, commit to myself and those I love to achieve this mission, to increase my longevity...
Responsibility 199 is ME.

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Day 67 - Peeved & Doomed

Not long ago I had lunch with a friend who was in a good mood when we sat down but quickly became irritated and foul. I took notice at how such a little thing got under his skin so quick, and in such a way that it ruined his meal if not for the balance of his day.

What set him off? The restaurant menu. He had a taste for a specific dish that wasn't on their menu. It was a simple if not common dish, grilled chicken with a sweet mango style salsa. There were other chicken dishes on the menu, some good ones too in my eyes. But he wasn't in the mood for substitution. Even when the waitress suggested another salsa they had on hand to go with a grilled chicken breast he would not budge on his dissatisfaction to their not having what he wanted. Yikes!

He ended up ordering a double bacon cheese burger. I've known him for a while so I had no reservations in asking him what on earth he was doing. He had just given the waitress a hard time over a menu whose content she had nothing to do with, and rebuffed her attempts to accommodate callously. So why the burger which couldn't be further away from his desire than Winnipeg is to Miami? His reply... "If I can't have what I want then I may as well just have what I shouldn't have!"

With great reservation I chose not to engage the debate that really should have taken place. This was my lunch time too and I didn't want to spend it in any more stress than he had already served up . So I let it go and we proceeded to get through lunch chit chatting about hockey, politics and other topics we usually enjoy. Oh, well I must say I did get one minor jab in. He ordered first, and after all he put this dear waitress through to then order a burger, well I took her up on her modified chicken with alternative salsa recommendation.

So where am I going with this? Peeves, do we use them as reasons to do damage?

We all have Pet Peeves, and I am sure at times we all have let them ruin our day. We are human, it happens, it will happen again. But, we ought to take stock here about what our reactions to them impact. If I had been in his shoes and had chosen as he did I would have ruined a day or two of healthy eating and exercise. When we the obese who are working hard to get healthy find ourselves in frustrated situations we must be conscious that the old obese mindset inside of us usually did react to frustration with such spiteful indulgence. This behavior of bad choice only fed our addictions and added to our size.

Hey, I am no psych major, what I say here seems to be common sense born from observation and experience. While knowledge and common sense are great, they are only beneficial if applied to good sense and action. So my friends, get frustrated, get angry if you must, it is Ok. But what is not Ok is choosing to act in a manner that will do harm, set you back, or awaken the old obese mindset within. We're better than that, we deserve to be better to ourselves, and we should never pass up on good salsa when offered it.

Responsibility 199 - Gotta Do It!!


  1. ..."and we should never pass up on good salsa when offered it."

    Very sage advice I must say. :-)Bravo my friend...bravo!

  2. I bet your chicken was better than his hamburger.. I love a good salsa myself.

  3. Ho I would love a dollar for every time I heard someone say that they ate the wrong thing because of ___________ (You fill in the blank with emotional situation of choice.)

  4. This morning was EXACTLY like you are describing! Several frustrating things happened and I felt like just pigging out, but I didn't, and the frustration passed and at least I didn't have any regrets along with the frustration!!!

  5. He sounds like he was looking for a reason to get the "bad" food. I have done that a milli9on times myself. In a food addicted mind, it is a rationalization.

  6. I read this AFTER my lunch, and wish I had read it before. Very true, unfortunately...but I like how you addressed it. Nothing is worse than someone pointing out exactly what you already know.

  7. Always good when others find alignment in your thoughts, it tells me I my mind is working properly :-)

    Thanks for the comments everyone!

  8. It's funny what will set us off. But I guess the old adage is true. You can't control what happens you can only control your reaction to it.

    How was the chicken?

  9. The chicken was dry to be honest but thanks to that salsa it was a fine lunch :-)

  10. It really is all in the attitude we take on things. I can remember myself having a spell like that over Mike getting me a breakfast sandwich other than the one I wanted and throwing a big spell. As it turned out later when I looked it up it was only 70 calories more than the one I asked for lol. I look back on that experience with embarrassment. Now I just try to go with the flow because really when it comes down to it food is about fueling our bodies and we shouldn't let lack of what we want ruin the situation or company we are with.

    As for your friend you telling that story made me feel he made himself a good excuse to eat poorly. I can remember times of doing the same thing and then justifying myself. Good for you for going with the chicken and not letting his upset upset you.